If you follow me on Pinterest then you may have noticed an increase in my activity lately. More specifically, the activity on my baby boards. Well there’s a reason for that. I am SO happy and excited to announce that Baby Bartlett will be arriving in May 2017! Eeeek! How insane is that?! As of today I am officially 14 weeks along. Like many others, I wanted to wait until I had it all confirmed and got through the first trimester before I told all of you just in case. This was supposed to go up a couple of weeks ago, but after having our first ultrasound, we discovered the timeline was a bit off thanks to having a super irregular cycle. So rather than being 10 weeks, 1 day at that appointment, I was actually 8 weeks, 5 days. So this post had to be postponed a little (which literally drove me crazy since it’s been typed up and scheduled for over a month now!). We are both so thrilled and our friends and family couldn’t be more excited for us. We’re the first of our siblings to add another generation to the family so I’m sure this baby will be very spoiled right from the start.
I’ve already downloaded way too many pregnancy apps to keep up to date with our baby’s progress and I’m completely obsessed with them. It’s the coolest thing ever to learn about our baby’s growth and it took me a while to wrap my mind around the fact that there’s a baby inside me. As weird as that may sound. The whole process of life is just so complex and interesting and amazing. I am so unbelievably thankful that I’m able to get pregnant and have this experience. I see so many women who have fertility issues and I really feared I’d be in that same boat. We’re so fortunate that this was such an easy process for us.
WAS THIS PLANNED?
This baby was VERY planned. Zack and I decided this past spring that we were officially ready to start trying for a baby. I’d already been off birth control for a year and a half at that point so all I had to do was work on my health a bit. I got my butt to the gym 5-6 days a week to stay in shape. I cut soda from my diet back in March and started doing my best to eat better. I also picked up prenatal vitamins and started taking them on a daily basis about a month before Zack was scheduled to come home.
Back in April, I had an appointment with my doctor for my usual female exams and she had pointed out that my uterus was tilted and that it could make it more challenging to get pregnant. That along with a very irregular cycle worried me a lot when it came or trying to conceive. Some months I didn’t even ovulate or get a period at all so when Zack arrived home, I picked up some ovulation tests so that we could better determine when I was ovulating. The first three tests I took came back negative which was a bit discouraging, but when I finally got one that was positive, I felt very relieved. It meant my body was actually functioning properly. So there was hope! From there, we took advantage of those days that I was most fertile and voila!
HOW DID I FIND OUT?
I found out when I was just under 6 weeks along (or at least that’s what we thought…I later found out the time line was off so I actually found at around 4 weeks). About a week or so after conceiving, my dad got married and I felt absolutely miserable at their reception. Granted I had drunk a lot of champagne that night but I started feeling nauseous long before I even got a buzz. And I’m not the type to get sick from drinking either. Either way, I really thought it was just because of how much alcohol we had in August with Zack being home so I didn’t think anything of it. I pretty much thought I had a never-ending hangover and figured I’d feel better once we moved and I wasn’t drinking on a daily or weekly basis (why is it that we drink 10x more when we’re with family?!).
I was then off and on nauseous and very exhausted the entire drive across the country. Again, I figured it was because it was so much driving and so much going on at once. We were stressed, and in the car a lot, and then we got here and were living in a crappy motel. I had every right to be tired and a little over-emotional. I had also started to feel very bloated and was eating more than usual so I got a bit upset thinking I was about to start my period. Every symptom I had could be validated so I tried not to get my hopes up.
A week after we got to California, I decided it may be time to take a test just to make sure. I had told myself if I hadn’t gotten my period by that Friday then I’d take a test. It was Friday. But honestly, I chickened out because I didn’t want it to come back negative. I didn’t sleep at all that night because I was thinking about it and googling pregnancy questions like crazy. Google didn’t help as much as I had hoped but eventually I was able to get myself to fall asleep.
The following morning, Zack brought Jack outside to go to the bathroom and I quickly rushed to the bathroom to take a text while he was out. I hadn’t told him I was going to take the test right then and there because I didn’t want us both to have our hopes up. So I kept it to myself and figured I’d tell him when he came back inside. Those two minutes of waiting were excruciating but I did my best to distract myself by doing my hair and makeup. When I was done with my makeup, I glanced over at the test sitting on the counter and there it was. In big, clear letters was the word ‘PREGNANT’.
I just about died. My heart was racing and my entire body was shaking. I was completely broken down in tears half because I was excited and half because I was beyond terrified. Here we were just a week into living in Cali and a month and a half after he came home and I was already pregnant. Our goal was to be pregnant by the end of the year and we did it. First time trying and I was pregnant. I couldn’t have been happier and I just about exploded when Zack walked back into the room. He was happy too of course, but his version of excitement just isn’t the same as mine. He’s a bit calmer about these things. But he was still thrilled when I told him. We wanted this so badly when he came home.
The rest of the day was spent feeling a whole mix of emotions. Excitement, nervousness, fear. Lots of fear. Then of course I had my anxiety telling me it was a false positive which prompted me to take yet another test the following day (of course this one also came back positive). It didn’t actually hit me or feel real until a few days later when we had it confirmed by doctors (this is a whole other story which I’ll include in my first trimester recap).
WHEN/HOW DID WE TELL FAMILY?
Everyone knew the moment it was confirmed at the lab which was a few days after finding out I was pregnant. The very first person to know was my sister Alex. She’s one of my best friends so I called her within minutes of taking the test. She was also the only person to know Zack and I were eloping three years ago so it felt right that she would be the only one to know I was pregnant (good thing she’s a good secret keeper).
I had originally wanted to wait until the 12 or 13 week mark to tell ANYONE. Including family. I just didn’t want to be in the spotlight if something were to go wrong. I preferred to handle it between the two of us and then reach out to family with the news once we were ready to talk. But that following Tuesday, I got my pregnancy confirmed by doctors and I just couldn’t keep it in. We called EVERYONE the moment we got home. It was around 9:30 at night their time but they didn’t seem to mind when they found out the news.
DO WE WANT A BOY OR GIRL?
Our fingers are crossed for a boy but I’ll be happy either way as long as they’re happy and healthy. My next appointment is at the 16 week mark and then I’ll have my anatomy ultrasound at 18 weeks. So we should know Christmastime whether it’s a boy or a girl. Of course, I’ll keep you all updated!
I’ll be doing a first trimester recap sometime next week so I’ll answer all the other questions I’ve been getting these past few weeks like how I’m feeling and symptoms and all that good stuff. If you have any questions you want me to add, then please let me know in the comments. I’m not sure how often I’ll be doing the bump dates and pictures and all that but I will definitely do some sort of update for you all throughout my pregnancy.
I feel so much better now that I’ve finally updated you all on this. Seriously. I’ve had to refrain from mentioning it in my blog posts, in blog comments, in blogging groups, social media etc. etc. etc. It’s been SO hard. I haven’t even made the official announcement on my own Facebook yet either (this update will be going up today though) so it’s been challenging. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. So I’m feeling much better. I’m so excited to share this experience with you all!!
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