This post is going to be a whole lot of crazy and randomness so bare with me here. I tried to organize my thoughts as best I could. Lately, I’ve been feeling super annoyed with society. Beyond annoyed, actually. I was at the gym the other day and at first I was feeling super good. I was prepared to work out and I always feel sexy after a great work out. Well, as I was stretching, I started people watching and instantly started to feel bad about myself. The girl in front of me was “perfect”. Her stomach was perfectly toned, she had the perfect tan, perfect teeth. I guess you could say I had a bit of a girl crush on her. But I couldn’t help but stare and wish I could have her body. All my self confidence went out the door and I instantly felt bad about myself for not looking like that.
I’m as pale as you can possibly get. My stomach is relatively flat, but not toned. I have zero arm muscle. I lack boobs and a butt. My teeth still need some work (like whitening due to my daily coffee intake). My face doesn’t have that beautifully contoured look. My hair is already turning gray and never looks the way I want it to. I’m a “mess”. And it really bothered me. In fact, it even made me a bit angry. Angry that our society is the way that it is.
[My perfectly pale, untoned bikini body.]
Who was the one who decided that the “perfect” female body had to be tan and toned? Who decided that all women should have flat stomachs and perfect teeth and gorgeous hair? Why it is frowned upon to eat choose a cupcake over a salad? Why are women like the Kardashians so idolized? It drives me nuts! Their bodies do not exist in real life. The images you see in magazines are photoshopped and their actual bodies have gone through way too many surgeries to get to where they are today. It’s not normal and it’s not realistic to expect your body to look like that.
And yet everybody does it. Women strive to look like that. Especially teens. No wonder there are so many young women out there who hate their bodies and have depression and eating disorders. It’s because society is telling them they aren’t pretty unless they look a certain way. As someone who has suffered from depression and anxiety and even a slight eating disorder back in high school, I know firsthand how damaging it can be to constantly feel so unattractive. Of course it’s always nice to stay in shape and I cannot wait to tone out my stomach a bit before Zack comes home, but I shouldn’t feel pressured to look that way. It’s one thing to set realistic fitness goals and it’s another to feel pressured to look a certain way and strive to meet that unrealistic version of perfection.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to improve your health and get in shape. In fact, that’s great! But the ways people go about achieving those goals are crazy to me. Nowadays you have so many products and diet systems out there that help people lose weight and get that “perfect” body. What happened to just going to the gym and eating healthy to lose weight and get in shape? Why are there now products floating around like “It Works” that supposedly help you get a toned body? Before I continue, I am not trying to offend anybody who uses this product or sells it or anything like that. I have friends who sell it and swear by it, but this is my personal opinion and how I feel about it.
I had so many people tell me they loved it and insisted I try it out before developing an opinion on it. Understandable. So I decided to try it the other night so that there was more credibility to my opinion on it. Surprises surprise, it didn’t do anything. My stomach looks exactly the same. NOW I will say that it does come in a pack of 3 or 4 or something like that and you’re supposed to use the whole treatment. And apparently the very fine print also states that you need to be eating right and working out (duh?!). But the way the product is promoted to the public vs. what it actually does greatly differs. Which makes it scammy. The before and after photos are very deceiving and I personally could never waste my money on it or promote it to others. So sorry to those of you who love it, but I definitely wouldn’t waste money on this. If you want a flat, toned stomach then eat right and go to the gym like a normal person.
To me, products like these are an embarrassment to our society. It makes me sad. Why do people fall for products like these? Companies like these are trying to make it even easier for people to get that “perfect” look. Rather than promoting healthy eating and exercise, society is now telling us we can get rock hard abs by sitting on our butts at home with a wrap around our midsections. Does anyone else see the issue here? Anyone? Our society is seriously messed up. We live in a country where a large soda is $0.99 and a bottle of water is a $1.75. Where a burger is $1 and a salad is $7. And now we can get abs by sitting at home doing nothing? I don’t think so. And one individual wrap costs more than my gym membership. So I’ll stick with my membership.
And the idea of dieting bothers me to no end. I am in no way trying to promote bad eating or saying that no one’s allowed to diet. Sometimes you have to diet a bit in order to kick start your journey to losing weight and making smarter choices when it comes to the foods you consume. If you need to make some smarter eating choices then do it the right way and do it because you want to. Not because society expects you to.
There is a difference between eating well and dieting. Eating well and making good choices is a lifestyle. It becomes habit and you do it long term for the health benefits. Diets, are typically temporary and they’re for people who are looking for “quicker” results. For example, someone may go on a diet to fit into a wedding dress or to look better in their bikini that summer. Then once they achieve their goal or the diet ends, it’s over and done with. It’s not really part of their actual lifestyle. Does this make sense?
But I’m more talking about those who go on extreme diets to get “instant” results and achieve that “perfect” look (particularly those who do not need to diet at all). Those diets where the list of foods you CAN eat is shorter than the list of foods you can’t. It’s crazy to me. You’re literally just starving yourself at that point. It makes it so frustrating to go grocery shopping or out to eat with them because they’re so focused on what exactly is in their foods. They’re asking about the calories and checking the ingredients and asking what it’s cooked in and it’s just annoying. At that point, they may as well just order a salad. But then they’re concerned about the dressing and the fact that there’s croutons on it. It’s never-ending. I couldn’t even imagine being that way. That’s just way too much work and Zack would never take me anywhere if I was “that woman”. Unless you’re allergic to something, please just order your meal and move on.
I’ve been around people who even refuse to have a cupcake at a birthday party because it’s not on their list of “approved foods”. Of course if you’re eating cupcakes and junk every day then yeah, maybe it’s smart to say no to a cupcake every once in a while. But if you’re like me and you’re not eating it on a daily or weekly basis, then I say screw your diet and eat that cupcake. The way I look at it is if I were to die right now, I’d like to die knowing I “lived life on the edge” and ate that cupcake. Who wants their last meal to be a salad and water? Not this girl! I shouldn’t feel guilty for eating a cupcake and “sacrificing” my abs. Who cares?! It’s one cupcake. Now I’m not saying that it’s okay to eat like this all the time. It’s definitely not. But extreme diets just aren’t worth it. Just eat the cupcake.
Like I mentioned before, I promote healthy eating and making smart choices when it comes to your health and lifestyles. Zack just quit smoking 4(?) weeks ago (so proud of him!!) and I dropped soda from my diet about 3 weeks ago. We’re now both very active and are in the process of creating a healthier lifestyle. We love it so far and are feeling amazing. But you will never see us dieting or going to extreme measures to look the way society wants us to. Why do I have to feel bad for not having the “perfect” body? Why should I feel guilty for taking a day off from the gym or choosing a cupcake over a salad? I feel beautiful just the way I am and as long as I feel good about myself and my husband is still attracted to me, then that’s all that matters.
If you want to get back in shape and get a toned body then you go for it! If you love having sun kissed skin then get it! If you want to eat healthy then do it! I am in now way saying you can’t do those things. I cant wait to have a toned stomach again and am a huge fan of sunless tanning products and salads. What I’m saying is that you shouldn’t feel pressured by everyone around you to look that way and you shouldn’t strive for “perfection”. It doesn’t exist. It’s important to feel good in your skin and embrace who you are as a person. So regardless of what society says, please just eat that cupcake.