Good morning and happy new year everyone! I cannot believe it’s finally 2018. This wasn’t our worst year, but it definitely wasn’t our best either. It’s been a rather stressful year around here and honestly, at this point I’m feeling drained and mentally and physically exhausted. I’m more than ready to move into 2018 and really make some big life changes for our family.
But aside from the stress, we’ve had so many amazing moments as well. We welcomed our beautiful daughter into this world in May. We finally made Jack a super family-friendly dog through some very extensive training. We played tour guides when our families came to visit over the summer. We moved into a bigger home for our growing family in September. And we celebrated Allie’s first holiday season and even spent some time at both Disneyland and Sea World with her. We had the opportunity to attend a Red Sox game in Los Angeles along with a Padres game and a football game later in the year. I relaunched my photography business in September and officially got back to blogging in December. We really did have some big, amazing moments this year so I cannot say this year was that bad.
Everyone always does a post on their new year’s goals and resolutions, but I thought I’d change it up slightly this year. Instead, I’m making a list of all the changes I plan to make in my life in this new year. I feel that this past year and a half since moving to California has been incredibly rough for not only me, but for our marriage and our little family as well. I’ve struggled a lot so my big goal for 2018 is to really focus on myself and get myself back on track. So in order to do that, I’ll be making some big changes to my everyday life and routines.
1. I’m changing my diet.
My health needs to be one of my top priorities this year. I’ve now taken 7 months off from the gym and while I’m not eating horribly, I can see a huge change in my body and the way I’m feeling on a daily basis. I feel sluggish and tired and honestly quite icky some days. Yes, I have a baby, but Allie sleeps 100% through the night and is absolutely excellent throughout the day as well. So I know she’s not the reason I’m feeling the way I’m feeling. It’s absolutely because of the foods I’m eating and the fact that I’m not at the gym anymore.
If you’ve been around a while then you know that I am against crash diets and things like that. I don’t believe in them. But I’ve done a ton of research on what different foods do to your body and how various food groups affect you and I’ve ultimately decided to do the Paleo Diet. I hate the word ‘diet’ though because this isn’t something I’m doing for 30 days and then calling it a day. I believe in making real, lasting lifestyle changes and while I’m not an unhealthy eater, I know there is something I am consuming that isn’t sitting well with my body.
The Paleo Diet takes out all the foods that could possibly cause issues in your body like processed foods, grains, dairy, etc. It brings you back to the basics. So while it’s going to be a bit of an adjustment for me the first month, I’m really looking forward to making these changes and seeing if they make a difference in my overall health. I’ll keep you all posted in this area! I plan to do monthly check-ins to track my progress and see how I’m looking and feeling.
2. I’m hitting the gym.
Going along with eating better, I’m getting my a$$ back in the gym. I’ve been so full of excuses lately. My biggest one being that I “can’t go to the gym because it takes away from my time with Zack and Allie”. While that’s true, not hitting the gym is affecting me a TON right now. And I cannot be the best mom and wife I can possibly be if I’m not caring for myself first. So I’m getting back to the gym 5 days a week, no questions asked and I’m quite excited about it. I actually started this over the weekend with a workout on Saturday and another on Sunday. That way I’m already off to a good start! I’m sore, but feels amazing to be back to far.
3. I’m living for myself.
This is a HUGE one for me. I’m 25 years old and I feel like I’ve lived the first 25 years of my life for everyone else. I’ve struggled a lot over the years with focusing on myself and not letting others influence my life. I have a lot of amazing people in my life but they’re also a very opinionated group. And it can be really hard for me to stick to my own beliefs and stick to my own wants and plans and needs. I make a choice, someone gives me their input and then I completely change my mind to make that person happy. It’s not fair to me and it’s really holding me back at this point in my life and preventing me from being truly happy. My life doesn’t feel like it’s my own at all and I think that’s a big part of why I have depression. So this year, I’m making it a priority to only listen to myself and Zack. This is our life. No one else’s.
4. I’m disconnecting.
Another change I want to make in 2018 is disconnecting from my phone more. And I want Zack to join in on this one too. I spend so much time working on my blog or editing photos or connecting with potential clients that I am literally glued to my MacBook or iPhone a vast majority of the time. We’re so connected to our phones when we’re home together and it really takes away from our time together. So I want our home to be phone free after a certain time. Especially after Allie goes to bed at 8 o’clock. Once we’re in bed for the night, I want that time to be for just the two of us.
I also really want to take the time to get outdoors more or even to sit down and read a book. Sit on a beach for an hour and just people watch. Go for a hike. Take Allie to the park. Something that doesn’t require working from my phone or skimming social media. Our entire lives are entered around our smart phones. So this year I want to disconnect and really live my life.
5. I’m focusing on my marriage.
Speaking of my marriage, I’m making this one of my top priorities this year. Having a baby greatly affects a marriage. Not necessary negatively. But it definitely changes around the dynamic a bit as you adjust to parenthood and the addition of another human being in your home. While we’ve made this transition rather smoothly these last 7 months, it’s time to get back on track with our marriage. I’m a strong believer in putting my marriage first. Our marriage is the foundation of our family and without that, our family will fall apart. So this year, I’m going to make it a priority to take time out of my day to reconnect with Zack and really focus on us.
6. I’m stepping out of my comfort zone.
This is another big one for me. I want to try new things this year. I want to do things I wouldn’t normally do. I want to learn how to snowboard or try a new food or get a new haircut. I want to take my business to the next level and stop allowing my fears hold me back from doing what I truly want to be doing. I want to explore my options in life and really hone in on what inspires me and what I want to be doing with my life. I want this year to be full of personal growth and in order for that to happen, I have to step out of my comfort zone.
It’s safe to say I am so happy to move into the new year. 2018 is going to be full of so many big, scary, stressful changes for our little family. While part of me is so scared for these changes, my fingers are crossed that 2018 is good to us.
What goals do you have for 2018?