Allie At 1 Month & My Thoughts On Motherhood (So Far)

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How is it possible that my little one is one month old already?! Can I cry yet? She’s already growing way too fast. I can’t even handle it. But this past month has been absolutely incredible. I can’t even begin to explain how happy I’ve been this past month. I’ve enjoyed every moment of this transition so far and am so excited for what’s to come in the future. Since Allie is now a whole month old, I wanted to do a quick check in to tell you all how she’s doing. I’m also including a postpartum check in as well as my thoughts on motherhood (so far). So since there’s a lot to cover, let’s get to it!

ALLIE’S 1 MONTH UPDATE

Weight: She weighed 7 pounds, 11 ounces at birth and at her two week appointment, she weighed 7 pounds, 15 ounces. I haven’t weighed her since then, but she can’t be too much heavier than that (that appointment was almost at three weeks so it’s a relatively accurate weight).

Height: 22 inches long. She’s grown 1 inch since birth (although I definitely feel like she’s grown so much more than that).

Eating: She’s now eating 4 ounces of formula every 3 1/2 to 4 hours during the daytime. At night she goes anywhere from 4 to 5 hours in between bottles depending on how well she’s sleeping.

Sleep: She’s sleeping super well! She hasn’t been a bad sleeper at all so far. She’s had a few nights here and there where it’s been harder for her to stay asleep, but most times she only wakes up twice each night. We feed her before we go to bed sometime between 9 and 10pm. Then she’ll wake up sometime between 1 and 2am and again between 5 and 6am. Then we wake up for good between 8:30 and 10am. So she’s doing awesome! I couldn’t be happier in this department.

She’s also still sleeping in our bedroom. After doing some research on it, I think we’ll end up keeping her in our bedroom for the first year. The American Academy of Pediatrics actually recommends babies sleep in their parents rooms for the first 6-12 months (in their own bed!) and we actually have two moves coming up in the next year. We’ll be moving in September into a new apartment and then again next June when I move back home with her. So rather than setting up her nursery again in the new place in a few months, it just makes more sense to pack it all up and wait until we make our final move next year. So that’s the plan for right now. We’ll see how it goes. I actually love having her in our bedroom now.

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Milestones: I think she’s still too young for milestones? She’s already super good at holding her head up and rolls to her side constantly. One night last week she was rolling so much that she almost rolled onto her stomach. Not even joking. Scared the crap out of me. Thankfully she has plenty of months left before I have to worry about that (I hope). But right now she’s just Allie. Nothing major happening with her quite yet.

Best moments: Every moment. Seriously. Aside from the challenging moment I’ll be explaining below, I’ve been super happy with this child. I love seeing her smile even when it’s in the middle of the night and I’m completely sleep deprived. I love seeing the way she looks at the world and her surroundings with awe and amazement. It’s been so much fun to get to know her and I’m super excited to watch her grow.

Challenging moments: She’s honestly not too challenging of a baby. The only challenge I’ve had this past month is her clinginess. She loves to be held. To the point where holding her is the only way to calm her down most times and it’s also the only way to put her to sleep. She must be sleeping on my chest. If I move her, it’s the end of the world. SO I actually invested in a Moby Wrap a couple weeks ago. This thing has been a lifesaver!

Being that I work from home, it’s super inconvenient (and frustrating) to have to spend my entire day holding her. It’s just not doable. I had one week where literally nothing got done because she was in my arms for a good majority of the day. So I bought the wrap and I now couldn’t imagine not having it. I love being able to hold her and still be hands free at the same time. She can nap and I can work with zero issues. She’s actually sleeping on my chest right now as I type this. Love the Moby Wrap!

Other than her crying sessions and having to hold her at all times, we really haven’t had many challenging moments. I’ve fully embraced every aspect of motherhood and am loving every moment of it so far.

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MY 1 MONTH POSTPARTUM UPDATE

My mental health: I’m still doing great in terms of my mental health! I’m so pleased by this. As you know, this was the one thing I was truly worried about after her birth. I check in with myself on a daily basis and have been carefully monitoring my thoughts and feelings and I’m happy to say it’s still smooth sailing here. Of course I’ve had a few moments here and there that have been challenging, but it’s not often enough to even say I have the baby blues let alone full blown depression.

I make sure to get myself out of the house on a daily basis and I spend time with friends when needed. I also have a few other mommy friends along with family that I can (and do) turn to when I need someone to talk to or someone else’s advice. And then I have an amazing husband who’s been so incredibly helpful these last few weeks as well. So I feel that I have a good system in place for keeping my mental health on track. But of course, I’m keeping a very close eye on it!

My physical health: I admit, I’ve totally failed at getting back to a consistent workout routine. I’ve been to the gym a few times and make sure to go for a walk on a daily basis so that I’m not completely failing here. I’m also very closely monitoring what I’m eating so I’m able to maintain my weight while I’m on my gym break. But for the most part, I’ve really just been taking the time to settle into my new routine with a newborn. I’ve also been focusing on my master’s degree, my certification program, and this blog as well. There’s a lot to balance right now so at the moment I’m just getting myself into a new routine. Once I have that down, it’ll be much easier for me to add in my workouts again. I’m feeling fantastic so I’m not too concerned about my workouts. I know I’ll get back to them once life settles down a little bit.

My recovery: I’m noticing that my recovery is considered a bit “abnormal”. I felt like myself again within a few days of giving birth. I resumed all normal activities and routines the moment I got home from the hospital with zero issues. But I’ve gotten a lot of questions, comments and concerns from others this past month.

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A week after Allie was born, my family flew in from Maine and we did a 2 hour walking ghost tour through Old Town and our tour guide was very concerned by me walking. She was super sweet, but very much got on my nerves because she was constantly insisting I sit down…I didn’t want or need to sit down. I was at the gym just that morning. A walk through Old Town wasn’t going to kill me. But I get that from a lot of people when I’m out. They’ll ask me how old Allie is and when I tell them she’s weeks, they instantly look at me with a concerned look on their face. God forbid I get up and moving. And then of course I’ve gotten comments on my doctor clearing me for workouts (everything I do is 100% doctor approved!). Drives me insane sometimes.

But everyone’s recovery is different. Some take longer to get back on their feet and start feeling like themselves again while others (like myself) recover more quickly. Honestly, I wasn’t too worried about my recovery simply because I’m so healthy and in shape. Keeping up my workouts throughout pregnancy definitely made my pregnancy a million times easier which led to an “easier” labor and now a super easy recovery as well. I had my two days in the hospital where I was super sore, but I was still up and moving around. It was very important to me that I keep myself moving.

I was given a ton of pain meds to take home with me from the hospital and they have yet to be opened (how do I go about throwing out prescriptions?? Is there a special way you’re supposed to do that?…is this a dumb question?). So I’ve had zero pain or discomfort. I also had very minimal bleeding which stopped after the first week (thank God). All swelling went down within the first few days as well which I was super thankful for. And within a week, I was feeling 100% normal. I don’t even feel like I just had a baby. It’s crazy to think I just popped out a child!

I’ll have my 6 week postpartum doctors appointment in another week and a half so I’m hoping everything on the inside has healed just as smoothly (which I imagine it did). But overall, I’m so happy with my recovery!

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MY THOUGHTS ON MOTHERHOOD (SO FAR)

You guys, I absolutely LOVE being a mom. Love love LOVE it. I seriously had myself in such a panic over this transition into motherhood and so far it couldn’t possibly be going more smoothly. It’s an adjustment learning how to work from home with a newborn, but that’s really been my only “complaint”.

While it’s been a super great transition so far, there have been a few things that have surprised me a bit. I’ll be doing a more in-depth post on this in the future so I wont get too into it. But I’ve definitely been challenged a bit already in terms of some of my beliefs and what I wanted to be doing as a parent. For example, I was very against sharing a room with her as well as wearing her throughout the day and yet I’m now doing both. It drives me crazy, but at the end of the day it’s really just been what’s best for her. So I’m trying to base all my parenting choices on her personality and her needs now rather than my own beliefs and wants.

I’m also experiencing a TON of patience. If you know me, you know that I have zero patience for anything. NONE. But for some reason, I am the world’s most patient person with this little girl. Of course I have my frustrating moments like any parent, but the amount of patience I’ve had with her over the past month is insane. Zack’s been the opposite. He used to have way more patience than me and now for some reason his patience runs out very quickly. So it’s kind of a weird switch.

Overall, I’m just happy. So so happy. I can’t even explain it, but I finally feel settled. This new role doesn’t feel overwhelming or stressful like I thought it would. It feels natural. I feel more like myself now as if I was just always meant to be a mom. My life and our little family finally feels complete. My heart feels full.

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How was your first month of motherhood? How long did it take you to recover and start feeling like yourself again?

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  • Annie Peterson

    She is so sweet. Motherhood is so different then I had planned and my first months were a true struggle of trying to give my high needs, super clingy son what he needed while still doing what I thought was best. I googled probably a little too much and drove myself crazy,missing out on that special bonding time. Enjoy it all as hard as it can be!

    • Thanks Annie! I definitely gave up control the moment she arrived haha and honestly, I feel that it’s made this transition so much less stressful. If she needs something then she needs it regardless of whether or not I truly agree with it. I’m really just going with the flow and playing everything by ear. There’s zero plan at this point haha

  • I am so glad your transition into motherhood is going so smoothly! I can’t imaging how annoying it is to have other people comment on what you’re doing all the time. Once I was waiting to board a plane and a pregnant lady was standing there minding her own business when this other woman came up and started bombarding her with questions and then she went and bought the pregnant woman a water bottle and told her she needed to stay hydrated. It was so awkward and I was only watching it second-hand. I’m looking forward to more of your updates!

    • Thanks Nicole! Just wait until you have a baby (if that’s something you’re wanting to do haha). I love being a mom, but honestly other people definitely ruin it for me sometimes. The moment I got pregnant, EVERYONE all of a sudden had an opinion on everything I did. It makes it so hard to do what’s best for yourself and your baby when so many people have opinions and feel the need to voice them. I remember I even had an old friend from high school tell me I was “huge” when I was 19 weeks pregnant…baby bump barely showing. It’s so horrible haha and you get it from strangers as well which you witnessed when you were at the airport. People are horrible lol

  • Kelsie Kleinmeyer

    She’s so sweet! I’m glad you are loving it. Good for you for jumping back into things when you feel ready for them. I think that’s got to be a personal choice. And enjoy that special snuggly time with Allie 🙂 It goes so fast and it’s okay if other things have to wait for a while! You’re rockin’ it, Mama!

    • Thanks so much Kelsie! I’m definitely listening to my own body and playing it all by ear. But man those comments can be annoying sometimes lol and I’m enjoying every moment of the cuddles. Totally worth the extra hour I spend typing up blog posts due to only having one hand haha

  • Amy

    Being a mother is a sweetest thing. Enjoy every minute. My first child will turn two next week! Time goes by so fast! I didn’t work out for the first three months after birth. Give yourself some time! 🙂

    • I absolutely love being a mom so far. It’s been so amazing 🙂 and I’m actually back at the gym full-time as of this week and I’m feeling amazing now that I’m back 🙂 it feels so good to have more of a routine down again. I’m hoping to make it more consistent over the next few weeks. That’s my goal for July.

      • Amy

        That’s so great!! Good for you! Keep it up! 😀

  • Jen

    Time definitely does go by fast! Definitely don’t listen to those who are telling you that you are doing too much. If you are feeling good and your doctor is happy with your progress then that’s all that matters. Heck, I have no room to talk, I ran a half marathon 2 1/2 months after E was born haha. 🙂 Allie is precious and I’m so glad you are enjoying this amazing journey of motherhood.

    • Thanks Jen! I’m definitely paying attention to my body and playing everything by ear. So I’m not too worried about my choices to get out of the house or work out and all that. But it’s definitely annoying to listen to everyone’s comments haha and I would SO love to run a marathon at some point. I give you mad props for being back to running like that. I was more than okay with slowing down in the cardio department when I got pregnant haha I’m just not a fan of running. But I need to get back into it.

  • She is so precious! Congratulations on surviving the first month! <3

  • Congratulations! It’s great that you have been feeling so good.

  • April Kitchens

    Such a sweet post. I wish I was blogging back when my daughter was born because I only remember being exhausted. Congrats to you and keep up with these type of posts so you won’t forget anything.

    • Thanks April. I’ve loved having my blog throughout my pregnancy and now that she’s born. It’s helped a ton in keeping me on track and in more of a routine. And I know I’ll love having these memories to look back on someday too.

  • Stacey Eckert

    Your little one is just the sweetest! I’m so happy that everything is going so well for both of you. I was just wondering the other day if you’d had your baby yet, I really loved reading this update about both of you! =)

  • Melissa

    She is so sweet. It sounds like mom life is going great so far! Baby wearing really does make a huge difference!

    • Thanks Melissa! 🙂 I must admit I’m obsessed with baby wearing right now. It’s been such a life saver in our home.

  • It’s really good to hear some of the really positive things about the first month with a newborn. It seems like everything I read just focuses on the sleep deprivation.

    • Thanks Sara! I feel the same way. I remember reading so many posts like that from other bloggers who were new moms and honestly, it had scared the crap out of me. But I’m super fortunate to have had such a smooth transition. I think part of it is because I tried to go into it as relaxed as possible and with low expectations. So it’s been really good so far 🙂

  • Annalee574

    Your daughter seems so sweet! You should be able to take your unused meds to your local police department to drop them off. In PA you can do that, there are bins in every police dept where you can take your old pills into and they dispose of them properly. Good luck with motherhood 🙂

    • Aww thank you!! 🙂 And thanks for letting me know!! I feel weird having all these prescriptions that I’ll never use. And I feel weird tossing them in the trash because I know there are some weirdos out there who could go through them. So I’ll have to see if our police department will take them off my hands 🙂

  • Thanks Amanda! I really feel that my recovery is going so well for the simple fact that I take my health so seriously. It was really important to me to kept myself in shape and as healthy as possible during my pregnancy. So I felt fantastic physically for all 9 months and I know it helped play a role in my smooth delivery as well 🙂

  • so so glad it’s going well for you! i had a horrible first few months as a new mom (now my atlas is almost 10 months) and was eventually diagnosed with PPD. thankfully it keeps getting better and i am SO happy to hear it’s good for you over there!

    • Thanks Chelsea! I hope it’s getting better for you! I was so terrified of PPD. I experienced a lot of depression throughout my pregnancy so I couldn’t be more thrilled that this transition has been easier on me.